This morning and the coming weeks, I’m going to step outside my box, my comfort zone and post on something that I really have not much head knowledge about, but I am going to write from the language of the heart, where my understanding resides.
I definitely don’t feel qualified in this area. But as my own understanding confirms, God doesn’t choose the qualified, he qualifies the chosen.
This will be a series of journal entries on my own personal experience combined with the experience from others on the Twin Flame Relationship. Hopefully, we can also get the male point of view from my twin, Rob
I know there is much already written and many who have much more experience with this and I am grateful for their shared experience has given much insight, understanding and guidance.
I knew nothing of the term ‘Twin Flame’, and I came across it while doing research on soul mates trying to ‘figure out” what my heart seemed to know, but I just couldn’t wrap my brain around.
So I thought why not share our experience since we have been living it for 16 months now, and possibly gain more insight myself.
We have gone blissfully through Stage 1 and Stage 2, but in the middle of stage 3, reality and self will came on strong. We are currently in Stage 4.
This entry will be much longer than the ones that will follow because I wanted to give you some general information regarding what Twin Flame Relationships are. I have come to know, the twin flame relationship is not all perfect, as one might think, as I once thought. The twin souls have lessons to learn from each other and synchronicity can be their guide. The synchronicities help to wake them up to take notice. When one is ready for awakening, so the other will be also, but it often comes down to the free will of each individual whether they are ready to look inward and take action for personal growth, or rather they will remain in the ego or shadow self.
Stage 1: The Preparation/Soul Recognition.
Both Twins recognize one another at the soul level and feel as if they have met before. Synchronous events surround the union. The heart chakras open and both souls quickly merge into a third unified energy. Both Twins experience an acceleration of spiritual understanding.
The purpose of the Recognition and Temporary Spiritual Awakening Stage: To activate the memory of each soul’s life mission and to help awaken each Twin to higher levels of consciousness.
Stage 2: The Meeting – A Glimpse of Heaven/ A Temporary Spiritual Awakening
The initial temporary spiritual awakening (illumination) fades. The ego (“little self”) begins to re-emerge. One or both Twins may attempt to fit the relationship into the “old model” of Love, couple-hood and relationship as it relates to their ego desires and learned belief.
Stage 3: Crisis/Karmic Resolve
The crisis of the Twin is realizing they must reject their egoic beliefs about Love relationships or reject their beloved. Having to shed “little self” or identity-based beliefs and desires to embrace a higher expression of Love can lead to stubbornness and anxiety. Fear can take hold, triggering many dysfunctional emotional patterns. In staying present with the patterns, they can be witnessed, released and healed.
“This is the tough one.
It starts after you’ve been in a relationship with your twin-flame for a while.
In this phase, all the accumulated negativity and lower emotions come to surface.
This seems difficult to go through at the human level,
but it is actually a truly divine process in which the Twin-flames get deeply cleansed with each other’s help.
This lets them achieve higher energy levels so that they can ascend in bliss together.”
(Excerpt from http://loveandlivedivine.wordpress.com/twin-flame-signs/phases-of-a-twinflame-relationship/)
Stage 4: The Runner
The human ego naturally fears annihilation in the face of the Unified Consciousness encoded inside the Twin Flame Union. The pain body rises up and old ego survival mechanisms or “bottom of the barrel” emotional and mental patterns like defiance, resistance, manipulation, anger, punishing and judgment arise.
One or both Twins become emotionally and mentally flooded with deep pain from what feels like soul-level rejection and abandonment. The unbearable soul-level pain leads one or both Twins to withdraw physically and block communication in fear and futility. One or both Twins may unsuccessfully try to re-create the original unified harmony.
The arguments and the Blaming causes a lot of confusion (because usually the spiritual process is not understood by the conscious mind, as we are conditioned to trust logic more that feeling)
The purpose of the Runner Dynamic:
To propel both individuals towards God for healing and maturation of the spiritual body.
NOTE: The temptation to engage in ego battle or withdrawal is very seductive and difficult for many to resist, which is why many Twins never reach Surrender, Radiance or Harmony.
Stage 5: Surrender
The direction and outcome of the relationship is surrendered to God in full faith and trust that the Union is under Divine Protection. It is accepted that what is best and destined for the final physical harmonizing will transpire in its own time. (Both Twins must reach Illumination in order to harmonize in the physical)
Purpose of the Surrender stage:
To help each soul release the ego, develop regular communication with God and demonstrate their full trust in God to do what is best and when.
Stage 6: Self Realization, Illumination, Radiance
At this stage, the surrendered Twin’s emotional, mental and spiritual bodies arrive at full maturity. New creativity and healing abilities arise, which are put in service to assist others.
Purpose of the Radiance stage:
To establish an outward flow of Divine Love through one’s body and works, which vibrates at a level that uplifts humanity.
Stage 7: Harmonizing
By this stage both Twins have awakened. They come together in the physical to assimilate their newly evolved energies, flowing into the new dynamic of their Unified Potential. Both Twins integrate fully into the third energy of Unconditional Love in a way that influences others towards their own heart opening.
Purpose of the Harmonizing stage:
To fulfill the intended mission of the Twin Flame Union. Twin Flame relationships come into your life to help mold you to embody the vibration of Unconditional Love. To live in the Eternal Bliss.
My Twin Flame showed up in Oct 2012, there was this instant, unlike any other, soul connection. Serendipity and synchronicity were taken place. The numbers 11:11 starting appearing everywhere. There was a feeling of familiarity, as if we had “known” each other before.
We fell in love before we even physically meet and when we did finally meet face to face, there was a cosmic collision or as Rob likes to call it, a cosmic unison.
My logical mind just could not understand. Almost if a cosmic shift had taken place. That the universe was in total control and I had no say in it at all. It happened very fast for us and I seemed to keep questioning how this could happen.
The funny thing was that I had a physic reading on January 27, 2012 (btw was Robs Birthday) in which I was told many things about where I was in my life, the changes that would be happening and also that someone would be ‘showing up’ and he would be like no other. He would help to rocket me into another dimension that would be like nothing else I had ever experienced. He would be wearing a crispy white shirt, smelling of really good cologne, he would tall and handsome. 10 Months to the day He showed up!
Although Rob likes to joke that he wasn’t wearing a white shirt when we met, I think she meant more about his professional career, white collar. We still laugh about this.
Love to me had always meant loss, so I didn’t “easily fall in love. Finally, I stopped questioning it and just let my heart led to way.
In the months previous to this reunion it was as if the universe was lining things up. Preparing the way. Preparing me and preparing Rob.
We had long talks about being tired. About getting ‘things’ right. We both believed that this is our last time here in physical form. We also believed that we both have what some call “old souls”. We’ve been here many times before. And although I have never had this confirmed through past life regression, its a knowingness that resides with in me.
This Journey has been beautiful, and sometimes not so beautiful. We are committed to each other and our foundation is firmly in place. I have no idea how God intends to use us, but we are willing, able and ready!
With Peace, Love and Blessings,